How Can I Show Feminists That I Am Smarter Than Them? (NCITW)
I think this is the best response this guy has given yet. (Don’t worry, the title is regarding what he’s been asked.)
“When your neighbor’s house is on fire, you don’t point out to him that some people also die from drowning, you give him the goddamn hose.”
The people who follow me who need to take this heart are undoubtedly already offended, but, hey, I’m an optimist. I live in hope that one or two of them might listen.
Except that the analogy is wrong. Men get raped as well, which is the exact same offense but NEVER fucking talked about. So a more correct analogy would be “When your friends house is on fire, you don’t give a shit that their neighbor is burning alive.” Pretending like people with the same problems as you are somehow unrelated or wrong is just ignorant. Rape is a PEOPLE issue, and it is about damn time we treated it like one.
I’ll give you a dollar if you can explain to me why male rape not getting attention has anything to do with misandry and not the patriarchal expectations of male behavior, or how arguing with anyone who opposes victim blaming in rape cases helps male victims of rape.
That dollar will be waiting for you in Congratulations-for-actively-missing-the-point Land.
“Male rape not getting attention” IS misandry, you ignorant troglodyte! The same way that dismissing rape because it happened to a woman is misogyny. It is self-evident, and if you think it isn’t, you need to check your ‘victim privilege.’
A guy who was raped, and 14 years later, people STILL don’t give a shit.
I’m really sorry that you faced that, and I’m obviously not trying to detract from what you’ve had to deal with.
But dismissing rape is rape culture. It’s not gender specific, which is one of the few things that the previous commenter got right. No one dismisses male rape because of misandry, a mythical belief that women somehow have the control over our society for decades and centuries to systemically oppress men. They dismiss it because our society tells us lies, like rape isn’t important or the victim was to blame or “men can’t be raped” and all the stupid macho bullshit that it tries to feed us about sexuality and gender. It’s not because of some female conspiracy, it’s the same patriarchal bullshit that tells women to get in the kitchen and tells men that they don’t have feelings to talk about.